As football season once again races toward the madness of playoffs and championships, it’s a good time to remember that sports can also be a double-edged sword—we can easily get wrapped up in the passion of the game, the heated competition, what it means to win, and rivalries. Even something as low-key as a little league game can be overshadowed by a parent-turned-monster (we’ve all been there, right?). Our kids look to us to set the example, and keep things in perspective.

So how do we stay mindful and grounded and help our kids do the same? Here are a few key moments where we can model good sportsmanship and keep positivity in play:

Include everyone - Sure, it’s great to strive for excellence. But remember why we all wanted to play in the first place. It’s up to us to encourage players, no matter their skill level, to participate—and to ensure they get meaningful time on the field, on the court, or with the ball, so that they feel included.

Follow the rules - It’s only fun when competition is fair. And competition is only fair when everyone follows the rules. Teach the importance of following the rules, and the thrill of winning when you know it’s because of your hard work and focus, (and not cheating). Never support cheating, or any kind of win based on efforts to go around the rules.

Respect everyone - “Win or lose, it’s how you play the game.” And a big part of that “how” is respecting everyone. Teach respect for the other team, and each other, no matter what the circumstances.

Lose gracefully - No one can win all the time. And part of being a great player (and person) is losing gracefully, recognizing the effort of the other team, and not getting too down on yourself. Teaching our kids that there “will always be another day,” and how to pick ourselves up after a loss can be some of the best lessons in long-term perseverance, and can build character.

Win gracefully - Is there anything worse than a sore winner? Teach your kids how to take a win as gracefully as a loss. Kindness is much more important than excellence. (see: “include everyone”)

Listen to the coach - He’s there for a reason. Encourage your little one to take advice from those specifically there to do so. Be teachable. Be respectful.

Listen to the refs - This is a hard one for everybody. It’s easy to start to feel like the ref is “ruining the game” with a few “bad” calls. Practice taking a deep breath with your little one, seeing the big picture, and taking it in stride.

Shake hands - A hearty “good game” and a shake of hands (or a COVID-friendly team wave) after a game reminds us that it was always about friendly competition, camaraderie, and sport.

Sports are an amazing way to help teach life lessons, important skills both on and off the field (court, track, etc.), and help shape your little one into a kind, successful, and thoughtful adult. The world could always use more mindful, responsible, and positive people—and we love playing our small part in helping your little ones get there.

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